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02 February 2014 @ 03:09 pm
Angry at world right now.  
Absolutely gutted over the news of Philip Seymour Hoffman's death.  He was an astoundingly talented actor, and we lost him far, far too soon.

Fucking drugs.

That coupled with some of the reaction I've seen to Dylan Farrow's open letter, and seeing some actors I previously respected blow her off, has made me want to firebomb the internet.  I'd post a whole long rant, but I just don't have the energy right now.
vjs2259vjs2259 on February 3rd, 2014 09:57 pm (UTC)
I read a bit on this around the net today, the blogs I normally read, as well as some of the older articles from around the time of the custody battle. It was just awful how many pro/con comments fell onto the male/female axis. I don't know what is true, but personally haven't been able to stomach Allen since his marriage to Farrow's daughter Soon-Yi (I think maybe she changed her name?)The heart does what the heart does but you don't have to act on it. Self-denial is the right choice in some cases. There was a case in my immediate family of false accusation of child sexual abuse so I know what kind of hell it puts a family through. But I do believe there are more actual cases than false accusations. More's the pity.

I never liked his movies much, though I went through a phase in college of dressing like Annie Hall. So it's not a problem for me to just not watch him.
Shannonkungfuwaynewho on February 5th, 2014 03:14 am (UTC)
Eh, I don't really worry about false accusations of child molestation, to be honest. The false accusation rate of sexual assault of adult women is on par or less frequent than false reporting of any other crime, and if I remember correctly false reports of child sexual assault are even less frequent than that. Which is not to say zero, but to me, even bringing up that it could be a false accusation is a derailing tactic.

NOT to say that's what you were doing, but I just don't have any patience for it. If anyone reports any other kind of crime, family and friends and law enforcement tend to believe them to begin with, and only suspect it might be a false report if an investigation doesn't turn anything up, things are contradictory, etc. But with any female report of rape/assault? Lord. Like, if you said, "someone stole my car," the cops wouldn't be like, "Are you sure? Maybe you just left the keys out where they ended up enticing someone. Maybe you actually told that guy he could drive your car and he didn't believe you when you changed your mind. You own a bicycle, too; did you ride it earlier that day? Because that changes everything." And so on.

Sorry to rant at you, but it just drives me crazy. Anyone getting falsely accused of anything would put a family through hell, so I don't really know why rape/child molestation charges are the one thing that everyone brings up as like a reason to not just believe the victim immediately.

And the whole thing with Soon-Yi is, to me, just more fuel for the fire. Considering how young she was said to look in the pictures, that WA had known her since she was just 10 years old, the amount of abuse she'd gone through prior to her adoption, her problems with a learning disability and school, I just absolutely cannot believe for a second that he wasn't grooming her long before she came of age. I read today a People Magazine interview with him that someone had dug up from the 70s where he was talking about how someday he might be found in an orgy with 15 12-year-olds. Like, who says that?

Yeah, the whole thing just turns my stomach. Pretty much everyone immediately sided with Jerry Sandusky's victims, even though there was almost the exact same evidence; but with Dylan Farrow, it's like people are pushing each other over to find ways to "prove" she's lying. It drives me crazy, and makes me hate everything.
vjs2259vjs2259 on February 5th, 2014 12:43 pm (UTC)
Oh, I agree with you about the rate of false accusations. And the exception does not prove the rule. The case in my family was investigated, fairly thoroughly although my ex-brother-in-law knew every cop in town, and eventually it was dismissed. Since that time my sister has divorced the guy and we've found out more about him. And now I wonder.

I was on a jury once where the defense actually was that the car couldn't have been stolen since the keys were left in it. The guy got off. But it wasn't the cops pushing that narrative, but the defense attorneys. There was also a chain of evidence; the guy caught driving the car wasn't the one who stole it. He claimed plausible deniability.

I just wish the presumption of innocence went towards the woman instead of the man. Why is a false accusation more of a tragedy than disbelief of a true allegation?

The Soon-Yi thing definitely affects my perception of Dylan's narrative. It was creepy in the best interpretation.
Shannonkungfuwaynewho on February 6th, 2014 04:48 pm (UTC)
That story about actually acquitting a guy for robbing a car because the keys were still inside is killing me softly.
vjs2259vjs2259 on February 6th, 2014 06:32 pm (UTC)
Well, the man arrested claimed he borrowed it from a friend. The part about the keys being in it was important because it wasn't hot-wired or the steering column jacked open so how could he know it was stolen? Friend loans you wheels, has the keys and gives them to you. Would you check the registration in that case? The cops couldn't find the friend to confirm or deny his story. He pretty obviously stole it or knew it was stolen, from his behavior and attitude, but Reasonable Doubt is a bitch.

I'll never forget his smile and thanking us when we had to let him off.

Edited at 2014-02-06 06:33 pm (UTC)