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05 October 2010 @ 03:46 pm
Some days I just can't think of a title.  
I'm in the kitchen, helping my mom start cooking dinner.  She has Little House on the Prairie on.  She asks me what Melissa Gilbert is doing today.  I say I don't know; TV movies or something.

"I wonder if she's still married to what's-his-name."

I cannot let her see my secret and embarrassing crush!  "Um, Bruce Boxleitner, right?  I think they are.  Still married.  Um.  Yeah."

I do not set off any of her alarms.  After a minute or so: "Wasn't he on that show you like?"

"Yes.  Babylon 5."

"No, the remake one."

"Yes, he's in TRON.  The new one, too."

"No.  The show they did a remake of."  I don't answer her, because I have no idea what she's talking about.  Another minute passes.  "The one with Mary McDonnell."

"Battlestar Galactica?  He wasn't on that."

"Are you sure?"

"Mom, that was Edward James Olmos."

"No, the original."

"That was Dirk Benedict."

Five solid minutes pass.  Then: "Buck Rogers!"

I came down and got on IMDB.  I don't know if I have the heart to tell her that no, Bruce Boxleitner was not on the 1970s remake of Buck Rogers.  I do not even know what she was thinking.  Still, bless.  ♥

This morning I helped my Grandpa run some errands.  We took his dog in for shots and his annual check-up; we did his bi-weekly trip to the store to buy two specific items (juice and milk today); we finally used the gift card he got for his birthday back in March to buy him some fleece-lined jeans.  We stopped at Wendy's for lunch.  Now, I have not eaten at Wendy's in a powerful long time.  I saw that they had a new salad, and that it looked tasty - apples and cranberries and pecans and grilled chicken.  I'm not a fan of salad dressing, and to enjoy a dry salad I need a lot of flavor.

So I bought that salad.

Then I went back to Grandpa's house to eat lunch with him.

Then I opened up that salad.

Shannon: feminazikungfuwaynewho on October 7th, 2010 06:42 pm (UTC)
Hey, I thought it made sense the first time. Because it's TRUE.

A few more quotes from Dirk's essay, just because, y'know, it's gross and it should make everyone angry.

This was, well, it was blatant
heterosexuality. Treating women like "sex objects". I thought it was

Right. Treating a woman like an object is flirting. How dare they not make characters like that anymore!

But 40 years of feminism have taken their toll. The war against masculinity has been won. Everything has turned into its opposite, so that what was once flirting and smoking is now sexual harassment and criminal. And everyone is more lonely and miserable as a result.

Fuck him. I don't care if that's mean or not. Feminism was not a war against masculinity. It was a war to get women treated as people, with the same rights as men. Quelle horreur! And since his definition of flirting is treating a woman like nothing more than a conveyance for boobs and vagina, damned straight that we finally recognize that as harassment.

One thing is certain. In the new un-imagined, re-imagined world of
Battlestar Galactica everything is female driven. The male characters, from Adama on down, are confused, weak, and wracked with indecision while the female characters are decisive, bold, angry as hell, puffing cigars (gasp) and not about to take it any more.

What a world we live in, where female TV characters are decisive and bold. How awful. Surely we all know that TV only exists to reinforce the worldview that men are the best and women are there to support them, cook their meals, and pop out their babies. GRR ARGH.
Holly: Laura UB happy colorhollywobbles on October 7th, 2010 07:07 pm (UTC)
It really, really makes me upset when men can't see the difference between being a strong, masculine guy with a healthy, caring, respectful view of women as people, and viewing them as something less than themselves. Sometimes it's outlandish, like what we see in that article, but sometimes it's subtle. (My ex boyfriend, for example, thought he should always win arguments and that I should always come around to his way of thinking, even when his arguments were extroardinarily flawed. He liked that I was smart, because it was neat that he got a smart one and because it made me "spunky," but he didn't like it that I was smarter than he was.)

My favorite guy friends and relatives are the ones who are strong and intelligent, and like their women strong and intelligent, too. They get naturally confused and horrified when someone treats that woman as anything less than she is. These are real men in my book.

STEALING that icon. Did you make it?
Shannon: bsg oath goodbyekungfuwaynewho on October 7th, 2010 08:07 pm (UTC)
I didn't make the icon (if it's brilliant and funny, then you know I didn't make it). Stole it years ago on Fandom Wank, back in the days when it never occurred to me to include the maker's name, since I never had to worry about credit.

I just don't get what it is about feminism, and women being smart and independent, that seems to terrify so many men. I honest to God have no clue.
Holly: The Queen 2hollywobbles on October 7th, 2010 08:20 pm (UTC)
Thanks! ;)
ghanima sun: kara is badassghanimasun on October 8th, 2010 12:21 am (UTC)
*butts in*

I remember the first time I read that essay, how shocked I was. It's godawful. There's absolutely no defense of what he wrote, it's so misogynist and hateful.

You write a good analysis of this, my writing skillz are poor and I can only mutter angry words! [I think that article recently got republished (for seemingly no discernible reason not too long ago) on some weird right wing blog.]
Holly: About to rockhollywobbles on October 8th, 2010 04:37 am (UTC)
Yay for butting in! :)
Shannon: bsg oath lee karakungfuwaynewho on October 8th, 2010 04:15 pm (UTC)
I think I was almost as shocked that he went ahead and published it under his own name than that he felt that way in the first place.

Hateful is a good word to use. I could kind of tilt my head to the side and understand a knee-jerk upset that his character - who was pretty iconic for the time - being turned into a girl. But he just went so far beyond that, and you can really see that this is a man who does not respect women. Not at all. I wish I could be a big enough person to say that I just felt sorry for him, because what a sad life he must lead, but no, mostly just angry.